Life Lessons from the 35 Years I’ve been Around


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As I approach my 35th birthday, I chose to reflect on a few of the things I’ve learned since 1983.

Mother’s Are Usually Right

I call my mom approximately 10 times a day. My husband has a really hard time understanding why we don’t talk about anything “important” when in reality, it’s all important. You just never know when you’re going to think of something that you need to share. It became even more crucial when I became a mother. Sometimes, I just want to bounce ideas off of her. Sometimes, I don’t even really know why I’m calling (don’t ever tell the husband that) but we find something to talk about.  Sometimes, I complain about my sister or my husband or just complain in general. Whenever my mom has advice about something (whether it be about my son, my work, or just life in general) it’s typically right – in the end.

Money Doesn’t Grow on Trees

Do I sound like a mom? Even so, it’s true, but something that typically takes some time to comprehend.  I started my first real job at fifteen years old, lifeguarding in the summer at a local country club. Each week, I deposited that paycheck into my checking account, and watched as it grew over time. I began making decisions in terms of the number of hours I would need to lifeguard, something that I continue to integrate into my financial decisions today. If I wanted to buy a new pair of shoes or a jacket, I would ask myself how many hours I would need to sit at the pool to earn the new piece of clothing. It also motivated my to pick up extra shifts if I knew that I was saving for something specific. 

99% Of The Things You Worry About Don’t Actually Happen

When I’m in a fit of rage, propelled by anxiety and the guilt that is motherhood, I often find myself worrying about everything and anything. When the term “what if” pops into my head, it’s typically time to step back and take a deep breath. One of my good friends is always telling me that worrying is actually a real waste of time until there’s something to actually be worried about. It’s really easy to go down a path of “what-ifs” because there’s just so many! Take it from me, just wait!

Marriage Is Not Easy

If anyone tells you that they don’t have to work in their marriage, they are either kidding themselves or one partner is happier than the other. Marriages are built on a solid foundation of values, beliefs, and the ability to navigate through life together. It doesn’t mean that every single decision will come easy and it certainly doesn’t mean that it will be a fairy tale.

It’s important to take care of your body: You only get one shot

Did you know that you’re supposed to drink half your body weight in water? It’s actually a real thing. I should also tell you that sleeping is a necessity but I know how many first time moms are going to want to punch me in the face, so I’ll just leave the exact amount for your imagination. It sounds a little cliche but if you drink water, get some sleep, and exercise, it’s going to make a world of difference. I have a hard time making each of them a priority but it definitely works.

What are some of the lessons you would add?