“You got this”, it’s something I say all the time, to my friends, to my kids or to my husband, and my clients. And the truth is, I mean it, you got this.
I’m a big believer in supporting other women, whether you are a small business owner, a writer, an artist, doctor, lawyer, or a stay at home mom. I want you to know you’re rocking what you’re doing and don’t forget it. It’s easy to get caught up in the every day and doubt yourself. It’s even easier to get caught up in petty drama and talk poorly about other women. When I was in elementary school our teacher had us do an exercise; we went outside and she cut open a pillow and the feathers flew everywhere. The teacher then instructed us to go pick up every single feather, well, we got most but not all. I remember my teacher saying “your words are like feathers, they go far and that’s why you shouldn’t gossip because you can say something awful about someone and never get it back – no matter how much apologizing or fixing you try, it will never be the same.”
From that moment, I made a vow I would do my best not to gossip. Obviously, I’m not perfect, but since becoming a mom this goal became that much more important to me, to set the example for my daughter. We’re all in this together and I make it a point to tell female friends how much I appreciate them, what their friendship means to me, checking in with them when they’re having a bad day. I try to stop by their house and drop off a few of their favorite things.
The great thing about being able to drop by unannounced is just making someones day, making your friend feel better, let her know whatever is stressing her out will pass, or you believe in her and she’s making the right choice. We could all use a little more support and understanding.
There are so many strong and brilliant women in my life who have never doubted me or made me feel ridiculous when I’ve reached out for help or asked for advice. These women have been there for me even when I didn’t ask for help because they want the best for me and my family. They’ve shown up at my worst and my best. Having strong women in your life will motivate you to do more, be better, be smarter. Not in a competitive way but in that want-to-see-the-best-version-of-yourself-way.
So often it’s easy to tear another woman down, mock her appearance, what she’s wearing or driving. Why not celebrate her new car or her raise instead of being jealous? Why not celebrate that promotion instead of saying it wasn’t fair or they didn’t deserve it. How about we stand hand in hand with another and shout it from the rooftops: “You got this!”
It’s 2019- will you join me in supporting other women? Remind them of their value and their worth. Be there for them. Be a safe space. Remind them “they got this”.
