The Best Friend I’ve Never Met


Blonde white woman wearing classes, standing in from of decorated shelves holding a red cell phone and smiling“You talk to her more than I talk to anyone…ever,” my husband exclaims as he hears another message pop up on my phone. He’s not exactly wrong. We chat throughout the day and into the night. Funny tidbits, venting about our kids, asking tips and tricks and more. We just ‘get’ each other. We are at the same stage of life. Young kids, we both work from home, doing the exact same thing, and we find ourselves with so many similarities. Did I forget to mention we’ve never actually met? We live halfway across the country from each other and have formed a friendship thanks to the internet.

As someone who has moved several times and owns their own business, I can’t tell you how isolating this mom thing can be. Do not get me wrong, I love my children more than anything and I love that I get to spend more time with them than most people would dream of. But there is a certain sense of loneliness associated with it too. Add in the factor of owning and running your own business and you become unrelatable to most stay at home moms. But my friend, my “IG bestie” as we’ve nicknamed each other, she really understands. She understands why I head off to work during naptimes and after bedtime. She understands the frustrations of exactly what I do. She understands the strain it can put on a marriage. And she has a great sense of humor so that just seals the deal.

I think as moms we put so much pressure on ourselves in everything that we do. Whether you are a full time working mom, a full time stay at home mom, or a combination of the two. It’s not only hard to find balance but to find a way to blow off steam. Or, just someone who can actually relate to what you’re experiencing. There’s this desire to find a connection with people, especially as a mother. It’s easy to feel like you’ve lost a piece of your identity. Finding someone that you can relate to as a mom AND as an individual, brings you back to yourself.

So don’t discount the friend you feel a bond within your Facebook moms group or the mom of a child who goes to the same dance class. A friendship that helps you to get through this life, laugh, and frankly be a better person, should not be discounted no matter where it forms.


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